In addition to working with a wide range of different presenting issues I have special interests in working with grief and trauma.
 

grief 

Grief is the natural and healthy response to the loss of someone or something we love. Hopefully you are supported by friends and family who understand your pain. But sometimes it can seem that no one could ever understand how you feel – the emptiness that is inside you, the regrets for words said and not said, the feeling of being so alone, the friends that avoid you, change the subject, imply you should be 'over it by now’, they just want you to be happy again.

Grief takes time, it may take a very long time; it never fully goes away.

If you are feeling all alone with your loss, months are passing and things are not feeling any better then perhaps I can help you. Slowly we will look at the different emotions you are experiencing, find support in your life and start to consider a life without the person you have lost.

Don’t struggle on alone – give me a call or drop me an email and we start working through this difficult time together.
 
‘Give sorrow words: the grief that does not speak knits up the o’erwrought heart and bids it break.’  Macbeth

'Moving on, as a concept, is for stupid people, because any sensible person knows grief is a long-term project. I refuse to rush. The pain that is thrust upon us let no man slow or speed or fix.'
'Grief is the thing with feathers' by Max Porter
 

trauma

Any experience that you perceive as overwhelming, especially if it was unpredictable and uncontrollable, can cause severe emotional shock and may have long-lasting psychological effects. If you have experienced events in your life that are having a ‘long-lasting psychological effect’ then it is advisable to seek help as the symptoms can get worse and may well have a detrimental impact on your relationships and health. Some examples of the effects of trauma are:- intrusive upsetting memories of the event, flashbacks, nightmares, feelings of intense distress, difficulty falling or staying asleep, feeling depressed and hopeless, suicidal thoughts and feelings, feeling alienated and alone, anger and irritability, and substance abuse. 

It is tough to admit that you are not coping and need support – it definitely is not a sign of weakness. Therapy will not require you to jump straight into reliving painful memories – in fact this may not be necessary at all. Developing a range of ways to support you and building skills to manage your emotions are the first critical steps.

So give me a call or drop me an email – we can arrange an initial meeting and decide where to go from there.